Thursday, August 31, 2006

I'm With Stupid


Have you ever had someone you confided in only to discover they were the laaaaaaast person on earth whom you should have trusted with your secrets? You thought you had found a kindred spirit in an oasis of friendship, only to discover it was all a mirage. You think you have found a soul mate, someone you could really share your true self with, only to find that your personal business was less than sacred territory in the eyes, ears and more importantly the mouth of the one you had trusted so deeply. When such rude awakenings come in my life, for some bizarre reason I always see Yosemite Sam storming around my mind and hear his voice calling me, "Eeejit." And God knows I feel like one.

The warning signs are always there. But we never stop to think that the one who so freely shares the personal information of others might also be sharing ours. We stumble onward, foolishly engaging in emotional russian roulette, while telling ourselves, " Oh, they wouldn't do that to meeee." and whispering a silent prayer that the bullet that has struck so many others won't hit us. Mother's advice was right, don't play with a loaded gun, honey. When the light does dawn, we feel so foolish, gullible, and deceived. It sucks to be sure, but even the great wheeler - dealer business man Donald Trump owns up to the fact that he is capable of being duped. And honestly, anyone who beleives they are incapable of being deceived, already is.

9 comments:

Monco said...

I've always been a big fan of Foghorn Leghorn in those classic Looney Tunes. His way of dealing with those who "stray" from the path in the chicken coop strikes a cord with me. Grab the old barnyard dog by the tail, lift him up, and whop him a few times on his backside with a 2x4. 'Course, that's not a very Christian attitude, is it?

There's something to be said for LOYALTY among "kindred spirits," friends and family, etc., but this particular attribute has long been out of favor among folks--even those who are "decent." There always seems to be a reason to betray the trust of whomever. Such is life though.

voixdange said...

Yes - sadly.

Dan Trabue said...

Sorry.

And I'm reminded of the last lines of the movie The Mission. Where the Bishop who allowed all manner of destruction by his actions is talking with the Portugese fella who encouraged it.

"Thus is life," the Portugese guy says, mock-wistfully.

"No, thus have we made it," the Bishop says sadly.

Hang in there. Not everyone in our community lets us down. We can make bad choices, but we can also make good ones. Let's hang on to those, right?

voixdange said...

Thank you Dan - that is a great movie indeed.

Constantine said...

Hey Amiga. It's hard to live in that place of dynamic tension between keeping your guard up and being vulnerable. You said, "the warning signs are always there." That peaks my interest. What would those be?

I also agree with Monco that the attribute of loyalty is a lost art and to our utter detriment too.

I trust you are okay?

voixdange said...

C - Yes I am okay, better than I was. A place of truth is always better than a place of deception, no matter how painful the arrival. . .

I think anytime we see people engage in behaviors towards others that we would not want them to inflict on us, and yet we choose to look the other way, we are kidding ourselves. If someone will be loose with the personal information of others, they will be loose with ours, etc . . .

Gary said...

Oh yes, I've done that (confided to the wrong person). I'm more careful now, but you know, sometimes we just need someone to listen - it has to come out.

Married friends will almost always tell your secret to their partners, no matter what they say...

jholder said...

Aren't we partly to blame -- after all, if they are loose with the info of others and we don't call them on it, we are parties to gossip. I'm quite senstive to this, as I have a not-distant family member who has trouble with this 'freedom of information', and it can be a problem. Both for my children, who hear things children shouldn't hear, and for the negative example it provides them in dealing with sensitive issues of others, and also because it is 'in the family' it won't just go away. Yet, it has to be dealt with ultra-carefully, for I don't wish to snub or disrespect these family members either as I would be a party to violating a commandment and enter into sin that way as well. Sometimes it can be sooo frustrating.

voixdange said...

Yes - we certainly are Jholder. And in the end we pay the price. As usual I find your words to be seasoned with wisdom and gentleness and always much appreciated.